“It's okay to push an edge once in a while, but it's also really okay to say, ‘I need to stop doing this.’”
In this episode, Heather explores the difference between resistance, fear, and shame, and simply not having the capacity to do what you’re asking of yourself. It can be humbling when your brain is ready to move forward, but your body and emotions haven’t caught up yet, and this conversation gets into why we hit the wall when we start changing how we operate, how overextending ourselves breeds resentment, and why recovery is essential to building the capacity we want. Heather also unpacks the importance of taking smaller steps toward the things we’re avoiding, without pushing ourselves into a state we can’t sustain that results in resentment. If you’ve been struggling to move forward and can’t tell whether you need to push through or give yourself room to recover, this episode is for you.
What to listen for:
☑️ The magic of the middle bridge when mastering resistance
☑️ Different ways women “hit the wall” when we start moving differently
☑️ How to distinguish between resistance and a lack of emotional capacity
“You don't have the mental and emotional capacity, and that's why you can't do it, not because you have an invisible mental load. This isn’t a fear issue or a resistance issue.”
☑️ Why limited capacity is similar to having less cash than you need
☑️ The reason we end up angry and resentful when we overextend ourselves
☑️ Emotional capacity is required to identify what you’re feeling in the first place
“There are moments where I just need to push through and get something done, and that might be a little bit of effort. But there are legit moments where that is dangerous.”
☑️ The humbling experience of your brain wanting to be further along than you are
☑️ Knowing your patterns and how you tend to overextend your capacity
☑️ Discerning what you do and do not have emotional capacity for
“Just because something looks good on paper doesn’t mean when you put that puzzle piece in the bigger picture, it fits.”
☑️ If you don’t take enough time to recover, you can’t build capacity
☑️ Do more of what you’re avoiding in small steps that move you forward
☑️ You don’t need to charge ahead; you just need to lean into the discomfort
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